Do More To Stop This.

So much more needs to be done to stop bullying.
So many people are having to deal with the affects of going through this because it isn’t being dealt with.

Every school has an anti bullying policy but not all of them stick to it, they have this rule for a reason so they should stick to it and help protect their students from this.
Schools should talk about the subject of ‘Bullying’ more often, this may help the students feel more comfortable talking about this if they are being bullied, and this will help people understand what bullying exactly is, some people get bullied but don’t realise they are being bullied.
I think there should be some students in every school that are there every break time for other students to go and speak to, this could be helpful for the students that don’t have many friends, for the students that are worried etc.
Something should be done with the person who has bullied someone else, instead of just talking to them something else should be done, because talking to them doesn’t always work, and sometimes it may get worse.
Every teacher should be trained on how to deal with bullying and every teacher should be able to do something about it instead of there being a certain teacher. If there is just one teacher who is in charge of this they may be too busy to do something about it, so it would be better if other teachers could do something about it too.
It should be made clearer that bullying will not be tolerated in each school so that students are aware, some students don’t know that their school has an anti bullying policy in place.
A record of the bullying should be kept, this can help the student know it is being taken seriously and that it is always being looked at.

But bullying doesn’t only happen in schools, it happens in the workplace, college, uni etc, and something needs to be done to stop that too.

Bullying can happen to anyone of any age.
Together we can stop it.

Try To Understand.

As a victim of bullying i’ve had people tell me a lot of different things to do or not to do. Some people don’t understand some of the things they shouldn’t say to victims of bullying, so i’m writing this to help them understand.

“Just ignore them, they’ll stop soon” – Don’t tell any victim of bullying this because it doesn’t matter how long the bullying lasts, it has emotional affects and the person being bullied should not just ignore them, they should go and get help from someone, whether it be a teacher, friend, family member.
“Don’t tell anyone about it because it will make it worse” – This is a lie, telling someone you are being bullied can help stop the bullying and can make you feel less alone and it can be a relief knowing you have someone you can tell, if the bullying ever gets worse more should be done to stop the bullies.
“Fight back” – If you fight back you will get into trouble too.
“Don’t show them that it is affecting you” – Do you know how hard this is? I’ve tried this. I went through  a year of doing this, it doesn’t work, and it is far from easy, if someone calls you ugly can you pretend not to care? I know that this CAN be affective sometimes but it is so hard to do.

Some things you can do:
- Keep a diary of what happens to you and show it to a teacher at the end of every week or at the end of everyday.
- Tell a teacher, they can speak to the bullies and help stop them.
- Make sure other teachers know so that they can keep an eye out for anything happening.
- Ask about counselling to help you deal with the emotional side of what is happening.
- You can get advice from other people that have been through bullying and see what helped them deal with it.
- If the bullies aren’t stopping speak to the headteacher.
- When out of school you can speak to helplines, they can give you advice on what to do.

Stay strong, don’t let them break you.

“You Can’t Help People”

Today i got told that i can’t help people when i’m not very well (with depression etc) but then i thought, the reason why i am helping people is because i’m not very well. The bullies are the people that have caused me to be unwell, therefore i want to raise awareness of what the long term affects of bullying are.

The bullying can stop but the affects of what happened to you can last forever. Just because i am unwell it won’t stop me trying to help stop what caused me to become unwell. Doing this blog helps me anyway because there is a chance it may help someone, even if it just helps one person, that’s all i want.

Depression, anxiety, self harm, suicide, low self esteem, eating disorders etc, all of these can be caused by bullying.

“Its stormy now but the sun’s gonna shine again
Even the worst storms gotta end
We’re better if we weather it all (yeah)
Together we’re never gonna fall ♫”
(Stormy by Hedley)

Bullying needs to be stopped, and together we can stop it.
Stay strong and keep fighting.

You Are Not Alone. Some Statistics.

You are never going through this alone. So many other people are going through it too.

Bullying in school.
- 69% of children in the UK report being bullied
- 87% of  parents report that their child had been bullied in the past 12 months
- 85% had witnessed bullying
- It is estimated that at  least 20 children and adolescents a  year commit suicide because of being bullied
- 1 in 3 young people  who experience bullying truant from school
- 20,000 young people  truant everyday as a result of bullying
(Statistics from Beatbullying.org)

And it isn’t just children and young people being bullied..

Bullying in the workplace
- 18.9 million working days are lost each year as a direct result of workplace bullying
- More than two million people at work consider themselves as being bullied
- 43.5% of employers do not have a policy to deal with workplace bullying
- 82.2% say that weakness in management is the prime reason for bullying
(Statistics from personneltoday.com)

These statistics might even be wrong because a lot of people keep quiet about bullying, or don’t think that they are being bullied when really they are.

Bullying leads to suicide, self harm, eating disorders, people running away and lots of other problems. When is it going to stop?

Stay Strong.
You are better than the bullies.

Speaking Up For Others.

I am still being bullied but it doesn’t stop me speaking up and trying to help others.
I struggle with my depression, anxiety, and a few other things but again, this doesn’t stop me.

Although there are times when i take a break from twitter or times when i turn my phone off, i still come back to doing my blog and helping stop bullying.

I hope that through my blog i will help people realise that, yes it is hard but you can fight through this.

You are never alone, so never think you are, there is always someone out there that will help and support you.

We Will Not Be Silenced.

We will stand together to fight bullying and we will NEVER be silenced.
You can try and break us down but this just makes us stronger.
We will stand together and fight you together, we won’t stop until bullying is finally stopped. We refuse to be beaten.

We can forget what you did, forget what you said, but we will never forget how you made us feel.

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Thank you to every single person who was involved in this post, and to everyone who helped.

Together we can and WILL end bullying.
Words hurt.
Everyone is beautiful in their own way.
Stay Strong.

Get Involved.

For my next blog post i need as many people to get involved as possible, if you want to be involved please write “I will not be silenced” on your hand, or a piece of paper etc and send it to me via twitter @Hidden_Beth or email missbeth94@hotmail.co.uk.
You can show your face if you want to but you don’t have to
All pictures in by the end of the week pleasee!!

Please share this post to help me get more people involved.
Together we can end bullying.

Thank you.

I Want To Change The World.

I don’t want to live in a World like this anymore, i want to help change the World so it’s a better place.

I want to help stop bullying so that kids don’t have to be too scared to go to school or adults are worried about going to work. I don’t want people to give up their lives because of bullying, well actually.. i don’t want people to harm themselves in any way because of bullying, i don’t want people to self harm because of other people, or make themselves sick because of other people, and every other thing bullies cause people to do to themselves.

You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes ,you may kill me with your hatred, but still, like  air, i’ll rise.

Nobody is perfect, and everyone should be treated the same.

Bullying shouldn’t happen, there have been so many suicides because of this, how many more is it going to take before bullying is finally stopped.

Any form of abuse is wrong and needs to be stopped now.

Words hurt.

I am not going to stop speaking up about this, i won’t be silenced, and i appreciate everyone that helps me and supports what i am doing. I hope to make a difference.
Please help me get my voice heard.

Thank you.

A Day In The Life Of A Victim.

This was what school was like for me most days, and a lot of other people have to go through similar things.
I don’t want your sympathy, i just want bullying to finally be stopped, and I want other victims to realise they aren’t alone, and we have to fight and stand together to stop this.

As soon as the alarm goes off you start worrying about what school will be like today. You hope that maybe the people who bully you won’t be in today so you can have one day that’s different from the others.
You go to wait for the bus worrying about who else will be on the bus, or where you’ll sit if there are some bullies on the bus. As you get on the bus you see people looking at you, you think they’re just looking at you because you’re so ‘ugly’ as this is what you have been called so many times. You sit down alone and hope this will soon be over. On the bus you listen to music so you can’t hear their comments if they make any.

You arrive at school and go straight to somewhere you can be alone, the library, a classroom, anywhere to be alone. As the bell goes you start walking up to tutor worrying about who you will see on the way to your classroom. You walk with your head down so you can watch for their feet trying to trip you up, and so you can’t see if they say something to you, you can hear what they say but just not being able to see them say it directly to you makes it somehow better because then you think maybe it wasn’t said to you.

You sit down in your seat worrying about who is around, you look behind you because you are used to people throwing things at you from behind. When the teacher arrives it is a relief because they won’t be too bad when there is a teacher around.
You get scared when a teacher asks you to answer a question because if you get that question wrong the bullies laugh at you and call you stupid, it’s weird how they laugh at you but not other people who get the questions wrong. If you know the answer to a question you still don’t answer it because you’re scared they’ll call you names for getting the answer right.

Whenever the teacher leaves a classroom you get scared because this is when the bullies start again, throwing things at you, shouting at you, “you fat slag” “loser”. You just ignore them and concentrate on your work. You do think about leaving the classroom but you worry that they might know you left because of them and you wouldn’t want them to know this so you just sit and pretend you don’t care when really you do.

When dinner time comes you go straight to somewhere you can be alone and somewhere you know they won’t go. The library was somewhere I went every single break time so I felt safe.
I was someone who never ate dinner at school because I was scared to go to the canteen because I knew they went there and I just wanted to stay away from them.

The end of the day seems like the best thing ever.
This was just a normal day for you.

This was what school was like for me when I was there, I have now left. So many other people have to go through something similar. This shouldn’t happen, school should be a safe place for us to learn, you shouldn’t fear going to school. This needs to be stopped.
Together we can stop it.

I am speaking up for every other victim of bullying, I will not be silenced. Please help me get my voice heard.
Thank you.

Too Scared For Education.

What happens when someone becomes too scared to go to school/college/uni or even get a job because of the bullying they have been through?

I know of an amazing and strongly needed charity for the recovery of bullied Children up to the age of 18 called the Red Balloon Learner Centre. They are for Children who have been severely bullied and are unable to go to school, they help the Children build back up their confidence and support them to return to school, further  education or employment.
http://redballoonlearner.co.uk/

This is the only help i have heard of to help the victims of bullying build back up their confidence so they can go back into education or get a job. What about people over the age of 18? I know we can go into therapy to try to get over what happened to us but what if therapy doesn’t work?
So many people in work get bullied, and some people will leave work due to this bullying, some people may find another job but what about people who don’t and are too scared to go back into work? A lot of people also leave college and uni due to bullying, too scared to go back incase they get bullied further.

As someone who left education because of bullying and is too scared to get a job or volunteer i wish there was some sort of thing like the Red Balloon Centre for people over 18, where we can still learn and build the confidence to get back into what we were doing. As i am 17 and will be 18 this year I wouldn’t be able to get help from the Red Balloon Centre’s.

You become too scared that the future will be the same, and it stops you moving forward, you just stop everything. You just need help to move forward.
Everyone needs help sometimes.

Help me get my voice heard.
Thank you.