“You Can’t Help People”

Today i got told that i can’t help people when i’m not very well (with depression etc) but then i thought, the reason why i am helping people is because i’m not very well. The bullies are the people that have caused me to be unwell, therefore i want to raise awareness of what the long term affects of bullying are.

The bullying can stop but the affects of what happened to you can last forever. Just because i am unwell it won’t stop me trying to help stop what caused me to become unwell. Doing this blog helps me anyway because there is a chance it may help someone, even if it just helps one person, that’s all i want.

Depression, anxiety, self harm, suicide, low self esteem, eating disorders etc, all of these can be caused by bullying.

“Its stormy now but the sun’s gonna shine again
Even the worst storms gotta end
We’re better if we weather it all (yeah)
Together we’re never gonna fall ♫”
(Stormy by Hedley)

Bullying needs to be stopped, and together we can stop it.
Stay strong and keep fighting.

You Are Not Alone. Some Statistics.

You are never going through this alone. So many other people are going through it too.

Bullying in school.
- 69% of children in the UK report being bullied
- 87% of  parents report that their child had been bullied in the past 12 months
- 85% had witnessed bullying
- It is estimated that at  least 20 children and adolescents a  year commit suicide because of being bullied
- 1 in 3 young people  who experience bullying truant from school
- 20,000 young people  truant everyday as a result of bullying
(Statistics from Beatbullying.org)

And it isn’t just children and young people being bullied..

Bullying in the workplace
- 18.9 million working days are lost each year as a direct result of workplace bullying
- More than two million people at work consider themselves as being bullied
- 43.5% of employers do not have a policy to deal with workplace bullying
- 82.2% say that weakness in management is the prime reason for bullying
(Statistics from personneltoday.com)

These statistics might even be wrong because a lot of people keep quiet about bullying, or don’t think that they are being bullied when really they are.

Bullying leads to suicide, self harm, eating disorders, people running away and lots of other problems. When is it going to stop?

Stay Strong.
You are better than the bullies.

Speaking Up For Others.

I am still being bullied but it doesn’t stop me speaking up and trying to help others.
I struggle with my depression, anxiety, and a few other things but again, this doesn’t stop me.

Although there are times when i take a break from twitter or times when i turn my phone off, i still come back to doing my blog and helping stop bullying.

I hope that through my blog i will help people realise that, yes it is hard but you can fight through this.

You are never alone, so never think you are, there is always someone out there that will help and support you.

We Will Not Be Silenced.

We will stand together to fight bullying and we will NEVER be silenced.
You can try and break us down but this just makes us stronger.
We will stand together and fight you together, we won’t stop until bullying is finally stopped. We refuse to be beaten.

We can forget what you did, forget what you said, but we will never forget how you made us feel.

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Thank you to every single person who was involved in this post, and to everyone who helped.

Together we can and WILL end bullying.
Words hurt.
Everyone is beautiful in their own way.
Stay Strong.

Get Involved.

For my next blog post i need as many people to get involved as possible, if you want to be involved please write “I will not be silenced” on your hand, or a piece of paper etc and send it to me via twitter @Hidden_Beth or email missbeth94@hotmail.co.uk.
You can show your face if you want to but you don’t have to
All pictures in by the end of the week pleasee!!

Please share this post to help me get more people involved.
Together we can end bullying.

Thank you.

I Want To Change The World.

I don’t want to live in a World like this anymore, i want to help change the World so it’s a better place.

I want to help stop bullying so that kids don’t have to be too scared to go to school or adults are worried about going to work. I don’t want people to give up their lives because of bullying, well actually.. i don’t want people to harm themselves in any way because of bullying, i don’t want people to self harm because of other people, or make themselves sick because of other people, and every other thing bullies cause people to do to themselves.

You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes ,you may kill me with your hatred, but still, like  air, i’ll rise.

Nobody is perfect, and everyone should be treated the same.

Bullying shouldn’t happen, there have been so many suicides because of this, how many more is it going to take before bullying is finally stopped.

Any form of abuse is wrong and needs to be stopped now.

Words hurt.

I am not going to stop speaking up about this, i won’t be silenced, and i appreciate everyone that helps me and supports what i am doing. I hope to make a difference.
Please help me get my voice heard.

Thank you.

A Day In The Life Of A Victim.

This was what school was like for me most days, and a lot of other people have to go through similar things.
I don’t want your sympathy, i just want bullying to finally be stopped, and I want other victims to realise they aren’t alone, and we have to fight and stand together to stop this.

As soon as the alarm goes off you start worrying about what school will be like today. You hope that maybe the people who bully you won’t be in today so you can have one day that’s different from the others.
You go to wait for the bus worrying about who else will be on the bus, or where you’ll sit if there are some bullies on the bus. As you get on the bus you see people looking at you, you think they’re just looking at you because you’re so ‘ugly’ as this is what you have been called so many times. You sit down alone and hope this will soon be over. On the bus you listen to music so you can’t hear their comments if they make any.

You arrive at school and go straight to somewhere you can be alone, the library, a classroom, anywhere to be alone. As the bell goes you start walking up to tutor worrying about who you will see on the way to your classroom. You walk with your head down so you can watch for their feet trying to trip you up, and so you can’t see if they say something to you, you can hear what they say but just not being able to see them say it directly to you makes it somehow better because then you think maybe it wasn’t said to you.

You sit down in your seat worrying about who is around, you look behind you because you are used to people throwing things at you from behind. When the teacher arrives it is a relief because they won’t be too bad when there is a teacher around.
You get scared when a teacher asks you to answer a question because if you get that question wrong the bullies laugh at you and call you stupid, it’s weird how they laugh at you but not other people who get the questions wrong. If you know the answer to a question you still don’t answer it because you’re scared they’ll call you names for getting the answer right.

Whenever the teacher leaves a classroom you get scared because this is when the bullies start again, throwing things at you, shouting at you, “you fat slag” “loser”. You just ignore them and concentrate on your work. You do think about leaving the classroom but you worry that they might know you left because of them and you wouldn’t want them to know this so you just sit and pretend you don’t care when really you do.

When dinner time comes you go straight to somewhere you can be alone and somewhere you know they won’t go. The library was somewhere I went every single break time so I felt safe.
I was someone who never ate dinner at school because I was scared to go to the canteen because I knew they went there and I just wanted to stay away from them.

The end of the day seems like the best thing ever.
This was just a normal day for you.

This was what school was like for me when I was there, I have now left. So many other people have to go through something similar. This shouldn’t happen, school should be a safe place for us to learn, you shouldn’t fear going to school. This needs to be stopped.
Together we can stop it.

I am speaking up for every other victim of bullying, I will not be silenced. Please help me get my voice heard.
Thank you.

Too Scared For Education.

What happens when someone becomes too scared to go to school/college/uni or even get a job because of the bullying they have been through?

I know of an amazing and strongly needed charity for the recovery of bullied Children up to the age of 18 called the Red Balloon Learner Centre. They are for Children who have been severely bullied and are unable to go to school, they help the Children build back up their confidence and support them to return to school, further  education or employment.
http://redballoonlearner.co.uk/

This is the only help i have heard of to help the victims of bullying build back up their confidence so they can go back into education or get a job. What about people over the age of 18? I know we can go into therapy to try to get over what happened to us but what if therapy doesn’t work?
So many people in work get bullied, and some people will leave work due to this bullying, some people may find another job but what about people who don’t and are too scared to go back into work? A lot of people also leave college and uni due to bullying, too scared to go back incase they get bullied further.

As someone who left education because of bullying and is too scared to get a job or volunteer i wish there was some sort of thing like the Red Balloon Centre for people over 18, where we can still learn and build the confidence to get back into what we were doing. As i am 17 and will be 18 this year I wouldn’t be able to get help from the Red Balloon Centre’s.

You become too scared that the future will be the same, and it stops you moving forward, you just stop everything. You just need help to move forward.
Everyone needs help sometimes.

Help me get my voice heard.
Thank you.

“Get Over It.”

Someone told me to “Get over it” when i told them about the bullying, i thought maybe of putting them into the situation of being me and all the other victims of bullying and then see if maybe they’d realise you can’t just get over it, it’s not that easy. If one day we could just wake up and decide to be happy don’t you think we would do this.

Do you think being called fat at least once a day for at least a year that you’d just be able to forget about it? Do you not think that this would change the way that person looked at themself and how much they eat or don’t eat..
After being called ugly so much do you think you can just forget someone ever said that to you? Is it easy to get your confidence back after someone has said this to you for so long?
Is it easy to just put someone’s comments behind you if it is still happening? If your confidence is still being lowered how is it possible to build it back up, i know maybe if you took yourself out of the situation it would be easier but you’d still never get over it.
After being told it would be good if you were dead would you not feel alone and not wanted?
Do you think if someone tries to trip you over everyday maybe you might start walking with your head down to make sure they don’t trip you up?
Do you not think you’d be scared to go into public incase you see these people?
Do you not think this would change your life and your view of other people?

Do you not realise what this could do to someone, how calling someone fat could cause an eating disorder, how telling someone they’re better off dead could cause a suicide.

As someone who has been through all of this and is still going through it i’m going to speak for other victims of bullying, i want my voice to be heard. I want to speak for other victims of bullying and i want bullying to be stopped.

They can break us down but we will stand together.
Please help me get my voice heard. Share this? Just please help me get this seen. Thank you.

Hold Onto Your Self Esteem.

Bullying is a big cause of eating disorders. Beat interviewed more than 600 young adults suffering from anorexia, bulimia or binge eating. Ninety one percent of these teens said they had been bulled, and almost half said they believed that bullying had contributed to their eating disorder.

“Bullying lowers your self-esteem and having low self esteem is a really big risk factor for an eating disorder developing,”

When you call someone fat so many times they’ll start to believe it.

Some people find that eating disorders give them some sort of control over something, and also they may see this as a way to stop the bullying if they bullies are saying that they are fat.
I was called fat, and i have problems with eating, i haven’t actually been diagnosed with an eating disorder but i’ve lost a lot of weight since they started calling me fat.

Beat provides helplines, online support and a network of UK-wide self-help groups to help adults and young people in the UK beat their eating disorders. http://www.b-eat.co.uk/

Don’t let them break you down.
Stay strong and hold your head high.

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