Try To Understand.

10 Feb

As a victim of bullying i’ve had people tell me a lot of different things to do or not to do. Some people don’t understand some of the things they shouldn’t say to victims of bullying, so i’m writing this to help them understand.

“Just ignore them, they’ll stop soon” – Don’t tell any victim of bullying this because it doesn’t matter how long the bullying lasts, it has emotional affects and the person being bullied should not just ignore them, they should go and get help from someone, whether it be a teacher, friend, family member.
“Don’t tell anyone about it because it will make it worse” – This is a lie, telling someone you are being bullied can help stop the bullying and can make you feel less alone and it can be a relief knowing you have someone you can tell, if the bullying ever gets worse more should be done to stop the bullies.
“Fight back” – If you fight back you will get into trouble too.
“Don’t show them that it is affecting you” – Do you know how hard this is? I’ve tried this. I went through  a year of doing this, it doesn’t work, and it is far from easy, if someone calls you ugly can you pretend not to care? I know that this CAN be affective sometimes but it is so hard to do.

Some things you can do:
– Keep a diary of what happens to you and show it to a teacher at the end of every week or at the end of everyday.
– Tell a teacher, they can speak to the bullies and help stop them.
– Make sure other teachers know so that they can keep an eye out for anything happening.
– Ask about counselling to help you deal with the emotional side of what is happening.
– You can get advice from other people that have been through bullying and see what helped them deal with it.
– If the bullies aren’t stopping speak to the headteacher.
– When out of school you can speak to helplines, they can give you advice on what to do.

Stay strong, don’t let them break you.

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7 Responses to “Try To Understand.”

  1. Jan February 12, 2012 at 3:50 pm #

    Anytime you need a friend
    I will be here
    You’ll never be alone again
    So don’t you fear
    Even if you’re miles away
    I’m by your side

    • hiddenbeth February 29, 2012 at 9:28 am #

      Thank you lovely *attacks with cuddles* ❤ xx

  2. shanyns February 12, 2012 at 8:02 pm #

    Always remember you are not alone, even adults can be bullied, often they are and have less help dealing with it than young people.

    You are not alone, never stop believing!

    • hiddenbeth February 29, 2012 at 9:28 am #

      I have posted about bullying happening to adults too, i’m just waiting to post another one on adult bullying actually 🙂 I hate how there is so much support for the young people getting bullied but then when some turns 18 people think bullying doesn’t happen anymore! xx

      • shanyns February 29, 2012 at 6:37 pm #

        So true, we need to do more to stop bullying regardless of age!

  3. susan February 17, 2012 at 1:31 pm #

    Hello Beth
    I just wanted to say that i have been following you on twitter and i think what you are doing is fantastic. You have and still are going through a lot as well as trying to help others in similar situations. I can totally relate to all you say as i have a 17 yr old daughter that has been bullied all her school life. The effects are devasting! Keep up the good work and well done for spreading the word xx

    • hiddenbeth February 29, 2012 at 9:26 am #

      Thank you for your comment, and thank you for your support too!
      I hope your daughter gets the bullying she is going through sorted out! xx

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